tertiary · Yearning

If-Only

Part of the Grief & Loss Wheel

What is If-Only?

Replaying scenarios where the loss didn't happen. A quiet bargaining with the past.

When you might feel if-only

If-Only is a specific form of wishing, which itself is a type of yearning. You might experience this feeling in situations where yearning is present, particularly when the circumstances align with the nuances that define if-only.

Emotional Hierarchy

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Related Emotions

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Their absence is present in everything. You notice them in all the places they a...

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Preoccupied

Your mind keeps returning to them without permission. Concentration slips becaus...

Haunted

Their presence lingers. Memories, objects, and moments keep surfacing....

Incomplete

Something fundamental is missing. You don't feel whole without them....

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